We all wonder about the people who say, "Oh, my baby slept through the night at four months." Well, some of us are actually lucky enough to get a child who sleeps through the night at a young age and continues (I am not included in these lucky ones.)
So what is sleep training, when do you start, what are the different methods, and will I ever get some rest? Here are some suggestions that might help some of us get on the road to a better night's sleep.
There are certainly many different methods and each one may or may not work for you. Each method strongly suggests that you start with a bedtime routine. Whatever your routine is, try to follow it each evening. This could be bath, books, bed or whatever works for you. Here is a brief description of a few sleep training methods.
1. Ferber - Developed by a pediatrician, this method is sometimes known as the "cry it out" method. This method says you can teach your child to soothe themselves to sleep somewhere between 4 and 6 months old. They suggest you put your baby to sleep awake. Then go back at a predetermined time and soothe the baby, but don't take them out of their crib. These periods of time gradually increase until your baby starts to be able to put themselves to sleep. He also discourages babies sleeping with their parents.
Many people believe this method suggests you let your baby cry until they fall asleep. The truth is, it encourages you to soothe the baby, just not to take them out of the crib.
2. Sears - Dr. Sears says to follow your heart when it comes to baby's sleep. Wherever baby and family are most comfortable is best. He says there are disadvantages of letting your baby cry it out even for a few minutes, especially in the first 6 months of life, when night waking could be from a variety of reasons.
Dr. Sears suggests having a predictable and calming daytime routine as well (regular schedule for meals and naps, comforting days that aren't too busy.) He also suggests "tanking up" your baby during the day to teach her that daytime is for eating and nighttime is for sleeping.
3. Weissbluth - Dr. Weissbluth has five components of his sleep method; duration, consolidation (interrupted sleep), naps, timing and regularity. This plan requires you to look for baby's natural sleep cycles and follow them. Putting your baby to bed awake is fine, but if he falls asleep while you're soothing him, don't wake him up.
In this method, you don't run to your baby as soon as he wakes or cries. This way, you give your baby an opportunity to put himself back to sleep, but you're still there if he can't soothe himself.
4. Four S approach - This method begins with setting the stage. Take your baby out of any stimulating environment; draw the curtains, put on soft music or have it quiet. Then swaddle your baby. The nice thing about swaddling is that young babies can't flail their arms and legs and wake themselves up. After you get her swaddled, sit with her until you feel her relax (usually five to ten minutes). Once she is swaddled and calm, she will likely be able to sleep. If she gets fussy when you lay her down, she probably needs physical contact from you to soothe her to sleep. This is when you try the "shush-pat." Whisper shhh, shhh, shhh in her ear and pat her back at the same time. Sometimes you will have to make the shh louder. If she's crying, your shhh will have to be louder than the cry so she can hear you. Don't jiggle or jostle her, just pat her back and shhh, shhh, shhh until she falls asleep.
Some other things you can try to get your baby down are nursing down (nurse the baby until they fall asleep), walking down, rocking down (hold your baby and rock or walk), and fathering down (hold your baby chest-to-chest with her head just under your chin. Then you humm softly while you hold the baby tight. Sometimes this works better with a man's low voice.
Remember that you know your baby the best, so do what's right for you and your baby. Also take comfort in the fact that eventually, they will learn to sleep.